Beating Around... Realistic vs. Religious

In an effort to keep my writing up consistently, I am forcing myself to sit down and right about a topic that requires few scripture verses (my bible is across the table which would mean that I would have to get up) but has been on my heart for a few years. As our culture continues to move away from the love of a happy ending, we have begun to believe that our reality is what we see (and what we see is often sad). The monotony of daily life, the disappointment of culture’s broken promises, and the illusion of the American dream leaves many of us unable to think for a moment that maybe what we see around us is only a piece of the puzzle and if we refuse to acknowledge the rest, we could miss what our lives should be.

It all started a couple of years ago when I was sitting at the pool with some friends and family members. I had just decided to join the Fellowship of Catholic University Students, FOCUS, as a missionary who would go on campus to bring Jesus to students and students to Jesus. As I was talking about my new job, I was aware that my audience was 100% non-religious. They had maybe grown up going to catechism but that was the extent.  As I was describing my new job, one of the women (whom I really like) made the passing comment, “ I think I am just way to realistic for all of that stuff,” and continued to joke with me and sip on her beachy beverage.

WO! It was one of those delayed insults that land you in therapy years later. In one sly passing phrase, I was told that I just changed my entire life around because I am Looney tune! I was not offended and in no way want this to be a rant post. But I would like to explore what it means to be realistic. I have thought very deeply about this moment for quite some time and decided that I would no longer label myself “ religious”. I am a “realist” and this is why.

In order for someone to be completely realistic, one must acknowledge the existence of all aspects of reality and give each aspect the proper priority. For example, I can acknowledge all aspects of my living room but if I treat my cat as though he is more important than my husband and I treat my husband is if he is my cat (we don’t have a cat), then I am not acting within reality. Same scenario, but this time I simply refuse to acknowledge the presence of my husband in the room, I am still not being completely realistic because realistically, he is there.

So here is the problem, we as a culture acknowledge the here and now readily and often give priority to what materialistic good is in front of us. Priority can be given to materialistic things but it can also be the dating scene, getting a job, becoming successful etc... We are ruled by the tangibles and intangibles that surround us.

BUT! If God is real and I choose not to acknowledge His existence simply because it seems wrong or that lifestyle seems hard, I cannot claim to be realistic or practical. I am not acknowledging something that is exists. In the same sense, if I acknowledge that God is real but do not give Him proper priority, I cannot live in right reality. Created things can never be more significant that the Creator Himself and if I do not acknowledge that fully (by where I put my worship and spend my time) I cannot call myself realistic.

It is true that some of us live in the Truth and some of us do not. Our grandparents would be appalled at the idea that no one can ever be wrong. Either Christianity is true or it is false. If it is true then in order to live in full Truth, I must acknowledge the existence of a God who loves us and a Jesus who became one of us accompanied by the Spirit of Truth. I would then believe in the eternal Church with all of its saints and that there was a roadmap to a virtuous life provided to us with pain and suffering and joy and glory. If this is true, then all who believe and give the Lord the ultimate priority in their lives are actually the realists because they are living in full reality, not the partial kind that obscures our view of eternity and falsely removes consequence from bad behavior (consequences of actions exist no matter what we believe about them).

If this is not true, I am not a realist. I am simply a religious and I need to quit my job immediately for more money and less humility.

BUT! It is true that we will know a tree by its fruit and I, in my airy fairy journey with God, have seen the tangible joy in the eyes of those who acknowledge the existence and sovereignty of God. I know many people who forego money, sex, and power, our culture’s golden calves, for a life of poverty, celibacy and service. It makes no sense and yet they contain and in their eyes a light that is brighter and more filling than those who who are too realistic for those crazy myths like God and religion.

Matt Fradd said that Sin makes us boring; it is the Saints who were fully alive!

It is the Saint who is the realist. Become and you will embrace the fullness of Truth and the realist of reality.