Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Beating Around... Social Media and Desire

What are the last 3?

I remember the very first time that I ever laughed hard at an internal audit joke. Once I finished, I realized that it had finally happened. Internal audit and the business world had finally taken over me completely… it had become the core of my very humor. I was horrified. I was no longer seeing the world from the perspective of a college student but from the perspective of a budding young adult professional with a bent towards the bore of accounting. I remember thinking, “ Mallory, if you think that accounting jokes are funny when even boring people are bored with accounting, there is no hope!” Dramatic? Maybe. But we tend to see the world through the eyes of our profession and as a young woman who left business for the mission field, I have a bad (or good depending on the audience) habit of relating almost everything back to Christianity. Yes, I have the super ability to tell you how your mosquito bite should remind
you of the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. Allow me to demonstrate.

My job requires me to spend much time in the bible and on social media. I have spent countless hours complaining about the problems that the Internet has caused in our society (just tell a middle schooler to ask a girl out in person and you will see what I mean). But it wasn’t until yesterday when I was knee deep in Psalm 101 that I was able to see so clearly the meaning of our obsession with Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter and everything else for that matter. Intrigued? Well I sure hope so… allow me to explain.

Psalm 101 says, “ I will sing of your love and justice; to you, O Lord, I will sing praise. I will be careful to lead a BLAMELESS LIFE, when will you come to me? I will walk in my house with a BLAMELESS HEART!”
OMG My life is so interesting!

What would it actually look like if my life and heart were BLAMELESS? It is something I strive for but will not achieve completely until Heaven; so I compromise. Striving for a life and heart that is pure and blameless is difficult, but creating the illusion of a picture perfect life and heart… well there is Pinterest for that! 

When I am pinning, I am actually dreaming about my future; I dream out of a desire for perfection. My Pinterest life is perfectly organized. It is complete with a loving husband and adorable kids who run around in the DIY clothing that I had time to make in between, praying for my imaginary marriage 20 different ways, cooking the perfect paleo meal, baking the most unique cupcakes, sweating out the most intense workout, de cluttering the house completely, traveling to the most exotic places and all the while I am a skinny, well dressed, hospitable achievement woman who lives her life fearlessly according the inspirational quotes littered over the website (and of course my walls). But don’t worry; I am still sarcastic, witty, independent and strong. On my Pinterest boards, I have it all.
WE ARE SOOOO FUNNY!

The collage of my pins however is nothing more than a dream. As opposed to the pictures of a life full of energy, smiles, smiles beneath tears, and intrigue, I often don’t even get out of bed in a good mood. I barely cook. I rarely enter the world of DIY. My trust in God changes drastically accordingly the time passed since my last meal. I do not love others well and in the end… I’m sort of all about me. There is loneliness, a desperation, and a messiness about my life that I don’t want you to see and social media can help me fool you.

Pinterest is more my website of poison but Facebook, Twitter or Instagram serve the same purpose. We doctor our pictures and witty comments so that others think that our lives are more interesting than they are. It is in the effort that we put into to portraying a perfect life that reveals the truth; we genuinely desire that our lives be more than they are! We simply don’t know how to get there. Deeply we know that status, prestige, money, cool trips or witty sayings will only may us LOOK good. These things won’t MAKE us good.

So what’s the fix? Illnesses cannot be healed by merely treating the symptoms and asbestos filled houses cannot be lived in simply because their walls were painted. The sickness itself must be treated and the asbestos must be cleared. We can give off an image of perfection but we unless we deal with our deeper issues, true happiness may as will be a fantasy board on our Pinterest accounts.
To start, we have to be honest with ourselves. Ours lives will NEVER be picture perfect, but our deep desire for that kind of perfection should lead us to believe that there exists a perfection to fill that desire.
COFFEE SNOBS!!!

 C.S. Lewis wrote, “Creatures are not born with desires unless satisfaction for those desires exists. A baby feels hunger: well, there is such a thing as food. A duckling wants to swim: well, there is such a thing as water. Men feel sexual desire: well there is such a thing as sex. If I find in myself a desire, which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world. If none of my earthly pleasures satisfy it, that does not prove that the universe is a fraud. Probably earthly pleasures were never meant to satisfy it, but only to arouse it, to suggest the real thing.”

If that perfection exists, it is higher than we. We owe it to ourselves, and all the time that we spend pretending to search for it, to ACTUALLY find it and to ask it to extend it’s own perfection into our lives.

This is exactly who God is and what He does. He is the only perfection. The only way to fulfill our deep desire for this perfection is to allow Him to bestow his very self upon us. And to accept this perfection is to begin to trade out the characteristics of our heart for the characteristics of His. You know these characteristics. They are the ones that we sort of throw around at church but never take seriously. The one’s about honesty, integrity, purity, forgiveness and true love. What if we were to show the world truth that actually lies in our hearts and then allow God to take away the ugliness and make it beautiful? Then we wouldn’t have to dream about the perfection because it has become the goal, to be more like Christ. We wouldn’t have to paint the exterior of our lives to be pretty because the beauty of a heart given to the Lord would simply shine through.

Easier said than done? Sure! But according to my “Ummm can we go there” board, I am up for an adventure so why not try to let God clean out my heart and see where it takes me.